THEN: Four years ago today we were moving my son Kamran, into St Johns University in New York for his freshman year of college. What a wonderful time it was; with dreams, goals, and expectations for the future energizing us all. Excitement and hope buzzed through our bodies with thoughts of what was to come…
NOW: Four years later, the dreams, goals, and expectations for Kamran’s future are gone, at least here on Earth. As I contemplate “then and now” I can’t help but think about the title of this ministry, “Embrace REALationships”. Embracing REAL relationships is something we should do EVERY DAY, EVERY MOMENT, EVERY “NOW” that we can. It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness of this life and to put off embracing REALationships until tomorrow or later… when it’s a better time, when it’s a less busy time, when my “to do” list is done, when the house is clean, when I retire, when… when….N0, not WHEN, NOW. We never know, NOW might be the only time we or they have left. There is a song that God has placed on my heart during this season of loss and it speaks to me in so many ways; but the simple thing it conveys to me in the realm of embracing REALationships, is found in the first stanza:
“If then was now
And I had you back somehow
I would hold you more
I should have told you more
If now was then
And we were together again
I would listen more
But now I miss you more.” “Love Goes On” Kelly Clarkson & Aloe Blacc
I have been guilty of putting off embracing my REALationships for all the reasons I listed above and more. Kamran, on the other hand, was so good at embracing his REALationships. Kamran made sure that people knew how much he cared for them, and he made them feel special to him, (which they were). Many friends and family members have made comments such as: ” he was always there for me.” For the REALationships that I have in my life; I pledge to “hold them more”; tell them more (about how much they mean to me and how much I love them); and “listen more” (and be there for them)…in the NOW, in every moment possible; because I know that THEN WILL NEVER BE NOW, and NOW WILL NEVER BE THEN.
It is a simple truth that we all know, but the ramifications of not living it out in our everyday “NOW” can be heavy to bear “THEN”.
Praying that all of you will embrace your REALationships in the “NOW” and that you will “BE EMBRACED” as well.